Why I’m Building a Free ADHD Journey for Late-Diagnosed Women

I got diagnosed with ADHD at 32.

By the time I got that diagnosis, I'd already spent decades convinced there was something fundamentally wrong with me. I’d always been in the top 20 of my academic class but it took me A LOT OF WORK - seemingly way more work than my peers.

I thought endlessly that I was behind. Inadequate. Dramatic. Too much. Not trying hard enough. Hyperaware of how I showed up in every space, assessing how I was speaking or whether or not I was standing up straight enough. I assessed the energy of a space, party, room, class almost as quickly as I crossed the threshold of that room - immediately.

The diagnosis didn’t explain everything, but it sure did cover a lot of bases.

• The rumination that kept me up at night reviewing all the social interactions I had that day and if I’d be in trouble the next.

• The shame spirals triggered by the smallest perceived mistakes.

• The time-outs I used to give myself, as an only child, starting from age five or so [to the surprise and chagrin of my parents].

• The people-pleasing that left me completely depleted.

• The constant, gnawing anxiety that I was failing at being human.

Memories started to rearrange and click differently.

I did what any newly diagnosed person does. I dove in headfirst, to the negation of nearly everything else.

Podcasts. Books. Courses. Coaching programs. Peopling. I consumed everything I could find, desperate to understand this brain I'd been living with my whole life.

Some of it was helpful. A lot of it was validating. All of it was fueling my dopamine needs. But most of what I found was designed for hyperactive little boys or productivity-obsessed men who don't have hormone cycles, menstrual phases, or nervous systems that have been in overdrive for three decades.

Check this post for more on all that.

I didn't need another pomodoro timer. I didn't need to learn how to be more productive. I didn’t need a new morning routine or to color code another form of planner.

I needed to learn how to emote after a lifetime of survival-mode-stoicism.

I needed to rebuild self-trust after decades of seeking external validation for every decision.

I needed permission to stop optimizing and start BEing. Dare I say, ACCEPTING.

I wanted to not only hear, but BELIEVE that I wasn't broken. That I didn't need fixing. That I just needed to learn how to work WITH my brain instead of constantly fighting against it. Or optimizing it relentlessly.

That resource didn't exist. So, after a few years of learning, experiencing, and some training - decided to become it.

I became a coach after 2 rounds with a transformational program; those that know me know that I lovingly refer to it as my cult 😈.

I decided to leave a career in community development for coaching, so I inevitably received my PCC credential. Got further trauma-sensitive training. I trained in somatic energy alignment and breathwork because I started to recognize that the body held what the mind hadn’t been able to process.

And when I started working with clients - it became clear who the populations were that were most attracted to me, my style and vibe. Late diagnosed neurodivergents, women, of color, intersectional identities. I honed in.

Nervous system and emotional regulation first. Then self-trust. Then excavating the limiting beliefs and shadow material. Then breaking rumination patterns. Then boundaries from a grounded place. Then full embodied autonomy. A bit of a different way to approach coaching the neurodiverse, for sure.

I watched the same kinds of transformation happen again and again. When the sequence was right, when the foundation was solid, everything shifted. Not easily, but it did become simple.

Yet, this sort of work - it's expensive and often inaccessible. Whether due to finances, time, or energy. Coaching isn't typically accessible to everyone, the industry is built on that premise a bit.

It’s vital to me that I both honor the work I’ve put in by being paid appropriately and that transformational work gets to be accessible. It’s been a topic I’ve been playing internal ping pong with for most of 2025.

This past year has been one of deep introspection.

My honeymoon in summer 2025 gave me space to step back and look at what I'd been building. Out there on the road, I realized: some things needed to change.

Not the work itself. The work is solid. The approach is sound. But the way I was delivering it wasn't reaching the people who needed it most.

So I spent the last several months clarifying. Restructuring. Building something that could meet people where they are without requiring them to invest thousands before they even know if this approach works for their brain.

The result is what I'm releasing on March 2nd.

A complete 6-month self-coaching journey. Free. Accessible. Structured. If you have a smartphone, it is accessible.

From burnout to embodiment. From dysregulation and self-doubt to trusting your own knowing.

Included are the frameworks I use in my paid coaching work. The integration exercises. The roadmap I've refined over years of working with late-diagnosed ADHD women.

But Vik, why would you make something that you get paid for - free?

Because the reality is, information is out there in the collective unconscious freely. If you know how to find it, you can nab it. I don’t feel that I’m losing out by offering this information for free. The paid containers are valuable becuase they go much deeper, for much longer, with me as a live partner along with a few others goodies that come with working together.

In sharing freely, I believe that valuable energy will come right back. A never-ending value cycle of mutual benefit. If I end up being wrong, I’m still living in integrity 💁🏽‍♀️

Read this if you want the complete picture of how I got here. The burnout. The misdiagnoses. The moment everything clicked. All of it.

This isn't a teaser for a paid program. This isn't a funnel to get you to buy something.

This is it.

I’m giving you an FYI /an invitation if you will - to the coming of 24 episodes over 6 months. The transformation journey I follow with clients. The same journey that I found myself on from 32 to 36, from depression, diagnoses, moving to a new city to pivoting careers, de-flaming my body, reversing pre diabetes, balancing PCOS and 90% enjoying the adventure with adhd 🤣

Will some people want to work with me 1:1 after going through it? Probably.

Will some people want deeper support through breathwork or group containers? Poss.

But that's not why I created this.

I'm doing this because I’m constantly reminded of what it felt like to be newly diagnosed and overwhelmed and broke and desperate for something that actually addressed what I needed.

This is for that version of me. And for every woman who's in that place right now.

Month 1 drops throughout March. First 4 episodes are appetizers.

After that, one new episode per week.

Grab your journal. Make some space. Get ready to feel your shoulders drop.

On youtube: Victorious Coach.

Ready to start the work now? Grab my free rest menu. It's a template for exploring what rest actually looks like for your ADHD brain. We'll build on this from Month 1.